I've been told that a boxer in a match probably would suffer less damage overall if he was to get hit by a knockout punch than if he was to go through ten rounds of the meat grinder.
And I started thinking about all the relationships that I have seen come and gone, especially the ones where the relationship was abusive, or just bullshit, and I have always stood by my friends.
Now, I'm wondering if I got it wrong. Whether because of the support, I've extended their pain and in the overall scheme of things, caused them more hurt than did any good for them. They come to me and rant and moan and bitch, and I make them feel better about themselves, and about their situation, and they go back and get themselves hurt worse.
And I ask myself what if I withdrew that support? What if, I walked away and let it all go to hell in a handbasket, then be there to pick up the pieces? Would it be better for the person in question then?
Right now, I'm not sure. Solutions to emotional problems are emotional in nature. It takes something dramatic for the person to want to change. If not, then the person will never change. If he lies, he'd do it again, and again, and again.
The next question is, would me walking away create the emotional impact deliver the knock out punch?
Questions to think about.
3 comments:
:) i guess the knock out punch would be the best. hurt the most but heal the fastest
I agree with this - It takes something dramatic for the person to want to change. If not, then the person will never change.
Question is - WHEN?
tianhong: question is if you commit everything to the knockout punch would it work? or would it backfire?
Oceanic: true true.
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