Friday, October 28, 2005

Giving Your Heart Away

A lot of people hoard love.

The heart is a limited resource, a lot of folks believe. And once a piece of it is given away, the person is diminished for it. After all, that's the reason why at the end of the relationship, a person feels diminished right?

You gave your heart away, and then it didn't come back.

This is what I found out.

After one gives one's heart away, the piece that is given away never comes back. A gift of love and time, and commitment never comes back. Of course, when a relationship sours, sometimes we have to return the other party stuff, like my ex returning the guitar that I left at her place, and me giving back her books that she lent me. The heart however, the feelings cannot be returned.

This does not mean that the heart is diminished however. After time, IF you let it, the heart becomes whole again. Broken parts heal, and soon, one is used to the loss of that missing bit. After some MORE time, the heart grows over the bits that are missing. I was about to say that the missing bit grows back. But after some thought, it doesn't. The missing bit is given away. It remains given away. And the replacement, is similar, but not the same. This WHOLE, NEW heart, I realized is better. Sure it's different but it is good. More mature, often bigger, more resilient, and more giving.

Strange isn't it? Give it away, and another grows in its place. Break it, it gets stronger. The more you give, the more you get back, and the more you have. Kinda like blood donation, I heard.

Or like pruning a plant to make it grow better. You know this weird plant called shui xian that a lot of old people who like bonsai grow? Only way to make it flower is to strip almost all the leaves nekkid. Go figure.

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

You silly desperate dumb cunt. Fuck you. Fuck your mother. If I can find your ancestors, I'll dig them up and fuck their skulls.

Vandalin said...

I love you too, you sick necrophilic ass.

Personally my tastes run to folks who are a little LESS twisted.

Funky T said...

hell, ya got a real hater here mate.

Anonymous said...

I stumbled across this purely by accident, somewhat later than most. Don't listen to the anonymous idiot; the fact that h hides his identity shows what a cast-iron, 100% ass he is really is. I enjoyed reading your post Vandalin. You obviously have a good heart; don't ever lose it.

Vandalin said...

well battered and kinda rugged around the edges. but hey, who gives a shit. it's mine. thanks!

Quickie said...

good post i belieave in such stuff aswell! and anonymous is just a jerk with not any heart at all!

Anonymous said...

hope you'll find someone who will fill that missing part of your heart someday

Nicole Bolster said...

That was helpful. I gave my heart away and it was broken. I don't think I ever fully gave my heart away before. The person was insincere and didnt truly deserve my heart.I hope this is true. I want to be able to give my heart to the right person someday.

Nicole Bolster said...

That was helpful. I gave my heart away and it was broken. I don't think I ever fully gave my heart away before. The person was insincere and didnt truly deserve my heart.I hope this is true. I want to be able to give my heart to the right person someday.

Vandalin said...

I was told that every person that comes into your life does it for a reason, and a lesson, especially your partner. In the not too distant future,you'll see that it's worth it, whether you are eventually with someone,or not. Hugs!