Thoughts on Love

Was browsing through some other folks' blogs today, and read something on love on this blog,
www.moblog.com.sg/blog/HostSara.

It occurs to me that most folks love getting swept off their feet. They want the romance in story books, and the "happily ever after".

Hard fact of life: NOT GONNA HAPPEN. EVER.

Sorry folks. Like life, there's probably never gonna be a story of happy-ever-after.

Happy-6-months - 90% of the time. Why? Consider this, for "sweeping off the feet" to occur, there can only be 2 situations.

1. Meet your partner in Judo class. I was... I get swept off my feet about 50 times a week. During grading, I get swept off my feet 50 times a DAY.
2. EVERYTHING is perfect. That means, for one side or the other, it's best-foot-forward time.

Problem is, "Best foot forward" is ALWAYS followed by "other foot catching up". 6 months is about as long as a typical person can tahan doing splits. There is a natural state for most people, best-foot-forward, is NOT natural.

Another thing, and this is absolutely human. After a really short time, even sharks' fin and bird's nest taste like crap. What do I mean? Singing under the block, endless chocs, flowers, talking on the phone till 6am in the morning... They get real old real fast don't they?

We humans hate shite, but it is the 70% shite in life and relationship that allows us to truly appreciate the 30% of the time the flowers bloom. And it be that short time, that makes all that mucking, raking and hard work worth it.

That being said, one's gotta know when to ditch the dead bush out to burn.

I guess my dear sista, Lyd, said it best,"You gotta accept your partner for who he or she is. All of it. The good and the bad, both. That's who that person IS. After that, the 2 of ya have to grow together." Simple isn't it? As with most simple things in life, overlooked and so hard to do. Bound to be some truth in that. She's got married last Sat.

Gotta add to your msg sis... Learnt this from a speaker at the National Achiever's Congress. The partner is there to balance you as well. Growth is uncomfortable and often painful. The partner is there to sooth the aches and encourage when you're down, and kick the ass when one's too comfortable.

Think about it.